Multi level marketing invoked some multi level emotions ..

Hey!! I appreciate all the nominations to post pics & engage on/in certain fb groups etc. My inactivity is not personal. Fb is a tremendous source of anxiety. It’s not any one person, place or thing…
I can’t do the constant covid19 information.(factual or not) .the political stuff (Democrat or Republican or _)


Long footnote:
Please don’t be offended If I don’t participate in multi level/network marketing events /groups. I’ve been invited to a bunch of virtual groups/ parties….as of late, and I totally understand why people are doing this.* You are trying to support your friends/self/family and I understand this, in the depths of my soul and recess of my eye sockets.. I was in one for two years and tried to support everyone I knew that where in one as well, bc I believed in ‘The Dream.’* I have a plethora of items (31/pampered chef etc) that I still use. I’m not a hatah’.

Here is the thing…During quarantine I have been doing a ton of research on multi level/network marketing and it’s truly not what I thought it was/is
….even as a discount market partner or associate or whatever “name” they utilize, if you are participating for the discount, bc you like the product.
I know all corporations are built in a way that makes money for the top. I get the concept of business.
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However after doing research (outside of my own echo chamber) , it’s so clear that the majority of the money for the top level bossbabes in their forever mansions, comes from the forever bottom/forever customer ..simply trying to make extra money and/or stay at home with their kids.

They prey on the vulnerable. The reason I started this research on multilevel/network marketing is how egregiously and ferociously..the MLM/network/direct sales companies went after unemployed people during a global pandemic. To sell to other unemployed people during a global pandemic..and build a team of unemployed people. (Logistically it’s not feasible ).

I’m sure some of you are reading this and makes you angry. This is not my intention. Maybe I’m making an amends for my time* in one..my amends to friends, family and myself. Maybe I’m just writing what’s on my mind bc its cathartic. I also try to use my words for good. Inspiration. Hope. Laughter.

So instead of going on and on (which I already have 🤦‍♀️.). I’ll list some resources with actual facts for assistance:
FTC . GOV search multi level marketing
Wikipedia search multi level marketing
(Multi level marketing refers to network marking and direct sales within the business model.)

On Instagram :
@mlm_busters
@mlmdebunked
@lillian.lano.loves
@anti_mlm_bossbabe

On Facebook
Mombie
Americans Against MLM
@mlmpolice

There are many many more, but these seem to be the most informative and not as “angry/volatile “, as some of the other ones I have reviewed..Anger and rage solve nothing unless channeled towards a solution.


I know there is a FB Group which is anti-mlm but I heard it’s pretty brutal. ‘Sounds like an mlm but ok’ , is the name of it. I don’t know much about it other than what a few people told me. I have heard that people have been attacked for trying to find their way out of an mlm or looking for support from guilt after leaving one or to gather info to help a family member who is in one.. Some are scared bc their upline is also a mean girl hiding beneath her toxic positivity leggings. So if this group is Bullying someone who is being bullied or their family member is being bullied in an MLM? Hmmmmm. Sounds more like high school, but ok. And I really disliked hi skoole. A lot.

And bullying (as mentioned above )is loosely defined as the insane love bombing then shaming tactics.. that these companies excel within.
… For ex) if you raise ANY OBJECTIONs to BUSINESS PRACTICES OR FACTUAL STATISTICS ..they shame you and call you negative, Excuse maker and that you are NOT WORKING YOUR BUSINESS model correctly. After telling you were/are a “leader of leaders.” 🤯 (this happened to me on several occasions. Not isolated either. )*

*In closing, I was a beachbody coach for two years, while I taught fitness classes. I did EVERYTHING they told me to do. I lost money. I lost time. I didn’t spend more time with my family bc I was “working from home.” I yelled at my husband about the poison in cheez its.. But I had a 4 pack of abs!(highly/highly overrated btw )
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People unfollowed me (I don’t blame them!!) My friends stuck by me, bc I was so “committed” and they loved me & they knew my heart. Thank You.. Maybe I made money per BBody’s “compensation plan” -🤦‍♀️. (No one could EVER explain to me how that actually worked ..Which should have been a HUGE RED FLAG but alas I was good at avoidance !! )
Finally,. I completed a true profit and loss statement, and it was scary to see how much product I had purchased in my own inventory (which they tell you that you don’t have to do but then tell you have to do it in order to succeed, which is classic mlm leadership= Double speak and confusion.)
I want to seriously apologize for anyone I “invited” to be a beachbody coach or be in my challenge groups. The cold messages, the lovebombing and the bizarre-tone-deaf-extreme-chamber which I echoed throughout my life during my “time” in all of it.. I was extremely vulnerable when they recruited me and it worked. I was smitten with my upline and her mean- girl-adjacent cheerleading-squad-of-dance fighters. ( I still loved/love that dance fighting format tho ) I don’t regret it anymore and I am profusely sorry if I hurt anyone in the process.

And no. This isn’t an isolated incident. There are thousands of stories which resonate within this “isolated” story of mine. I have read and heard them with my own eyes.
I say this bc I have also heard “I’m sorry you had that experience.. my mlm company/upline is not like that.” If you’re “working” for an mlm, and you’re not getting a paycheck unless you purchase mandatory MONTHLY product AND recruit people to do the same exact thing and “duplicate yourself” (another fun mlm term used in “leadership””…. ..then yes..it is like “that.” Your upline just might be less mean girl adjacent and better at lovebombing.

Also… Google BITE model. Alllllll of this and more was utilized on me in Beachbody.
Thanks for reading my not thesis/ thesis.

I hope to dabble more on facebook/word press I’m dipping my toe back in with a long one….

Meandering Thoughts on the Home Biz tiered marketing spike during Covid 19

No offense ..please!! to anyone that does this as a side hustle.
Take what you like and leave the rest. Trust me. I understand the allure of this ‘concept’ because I did it for two years.😇😳😒
The most eye opening part of my experience:
A) a actual profit and loss statement (didn’t take long to see I was losing money and I’m horrible at math )
b) being told by a very high level bossbabe that I had to Rank people on a tracking sheet and if i didn’t want to do this (because it went against my moral code in every way) , I was essentially, a quitter?excuse maker. That my friends..is gas-lighting 101.

PS.. I know a lot of people who do this for the product (no argument that some of these companies put out some great products) and I get that. Truly. . I don’t know that the answer ‘is’ but I do know I what I experienced. I do know that as I bonded with enough people who have terminated their contracts (PPS it took me 3 typed written letters and 2 phone calls to terminate mine? ). to know my experience was far from isolated…. in fact .. it was extremely common. And the fact that it’s a “contract” with ZERO money guaranteed, should have been a huge red flag.

The MAIN reason I’m sharing about this business is how many ‘leading’ MLM* companies preyed on peoples’ worst economic/health insecurities, during a global epidemic (yes. I know other non-mlm companies took advantage as well, but ..MLMS* and their shady by-products.. =(bossbabe-mentorship-program-5-day-free-trial-bait-switch-vortex-ads, were the MOST egregious during the global pandemic by many high level bossbabes.)

I share** because seeing these type of posts (the one I’m writing and the blog attached) have helped me shed some of the guilt I carried for signing people up under me and not following my gut instinct about predatory /toxic/mean-girl-adjacent behavior.***

  • (multi level/network/direct/marketing)

** I am hesitant to share my opinion on this topic, (bc essentially that’s what my writing is..an opinion/a think-piece)…because I know there are caring/amazing/ wonderful people, who do this for the product discount or to make some side money.

I want to reiterate, this post/blog attachment; is not an indictment or criticism towards those individuals. This is a cautionary tale of what I went through and what many other people have been through or are going through right now. To be clear, this is a criticism of the business model and of the high level bossbabes who shame/gaslight/ and say things like “I am successful because I put the work in and YOU didn’t” (actual quote.) In any other job, they would be hauled into Human Resources /put on notice/ terminated for this type of gas-lighting behavior they exemplify on social media. #themoreweknow

*** ..I singled out the babes/female/girls – in this context because they exemplified the top tier of a lot of these companies and SEEK out the weaker non-mean females..seeking validation (as I was). LITERALLY stuff we should have learned in High school ..but didn’t…

Thank you for reading/reading attached blog post. and it’s okay if you rolled your eyes. Or wish I wouldn’t share my opinions and just share happy pictures of family stuff. If there is one thing I have learned – especially in the last 6 months -is that hiding – because it makes others more comfortable – is not who I am at my core. When I hide my words because they may cause discomfort ..I am hiding who I truly am. I write better than I speak and If it helps one person laugh/feel better/look inward/trust their instincts….then maybe I am paying in forward ..in a very small way.

Stigmatized

I was desperate to reinvent myself after babies. I NEEDED to make money and not have to lose it all to daycare. For a variety of reasons..

I also thought I could make a difference in peoples lives. And… in walked the Multi Level Marketing/Direct Marketing/ Network marketing. Whatever . Any business where your selling other peoples shit, on your dime, your time and not getting paid ..unless you meet some crazy housewives-of- cards-flow-charting-fluid -pyramid-chart-thing that doesn’t even make sense to people who have business degrees.

Here is my issue with all of this MLM stuff. While I’m glad people are speaking about about the fallacy of this ‘home biz’ dream, People who are super successful, do not operate in a icky, salesly aggressive manner. They are SLICK.

They have elaborate business workshops and massive followings for their weekend- long spa-like-seminars. Their success is absolutely real. They have the stay-at-home spouses , who ‘fired their boss’, to prove it. The cars. The trips. The houses. The college education paid for and they invested wisely…..

BUT it’s not attainable for many and there is absolutely no transparency in their long- winded posts and webinars.

That lack of transparency is hid under their layers of real success. They tell you how they got there, from the humblest of beginnings but they really don’t tell how they did it you either. There is so much conflicting, confusing information , washed away with exploding presentations and concert-like venues.

Also, because they are so wildly successful.. they get “out” of that business AND become ‘home business consultants.’

Additionally, they book highly reputable speakers on the subject of social media marketing /influencing or whatver the eff it’s called. It actually appears very legitimate. They actually preach on NOT being aggresive and how to be super mysterious and make people “come to you and interview for a position on your sales team.”. .

It’s all very, very layered in a non-transparent double speak. It’s all very intelligently presented, its cohesive webinars and break-out workshops. Backed by awe inspiring stories of Doctors and Lawyers who “quit their day jobs ” to “run their home biz.”

Wow. Who can’t be inspired by a Doctor who, quit his/her career AS A DOCTOR;

After completing med school?

And a grueling residencey?

Who is now more fulfilled, financially, spiritually and mentally… selling keto oil.

Don’t get me started on the Drs who push mlm nutrition supplements. NO!

What I find super baffling is, my friends that are in mlms, are not icky sales people. The proverbial downline. They never inbox me. They are very low key and some of the products they sell are high quality.

And more importantly the products are legit to them. I have no idea how much money they make because they don’t flaunt it. They sell it because they use it. The same reason I signed up for Beachbody.

I loved the fitness programs, taught them and I liked shakeoolgy. But I couldn’t justify the INSANE price and aggressive selling tactics so I left because I was literally telling people where to buy the comparable product at the local nutrition shop, by the end of my short lived emerald ocean tour.

Plus, I got sick of shakes. and sick of my upline telling me I needed to drink shakeology every day. Now I drink some brand from the nutrition shake-shack ..maybe twice a week, when its warm out.

I also loved the 31 Totes, Stella and Dot and some Pampered Chef stuff. .and the oils from fueding oil companies, smelled fantastic. Although ingesting them in lieu of going to the doctor or INGESTING THEM AT ALL..seemed a bit off to me.but also I just bought oregano oil pills from my pharma so maybe I’m a hypocrite or maybe I’m confused.

Be smart be safe and trust modern medical miracles.

Some of the products are well made and worthwhile.

And it is really diffficutl to say no to a friend who is trying to make some extra cash ,,when they didn’t even ask but their social media shares are sweet, compelling and non aggressive.

There is so much more layering in all of this that goes beyond simply identifying charlaton sales ads or hunbots as they are called now.

And hunbots are not so self aware they are going to read this blog and have a wake up call about their creepy hunbot behavior (google the term if you don’t know ..I’m too lazy to link the definition).

I know this blog piece is lost on many who do do this for a living or do it to get discount on fragrant oil or eyelash serums. Or you never had to reinvent your self in your career.

I don’t know what the answer is to addressing the deception. God knows.. I’ve searched because I was incredibly misled on my journey as a healht “coach.’

I firmly believe the people at the tippy top of the organizations, are not being held accountable for the utter lack of transparency.

And why hasn’t anyone in the government or with real power to set regulations, spoke out against the pretzel logic business models ?

.BECAUSE they are neatly packaged in some amazing seminars backed by NYT best selling authors & successful entrepreneurs..like Chalene Johnson and the “Dammit all to hell, Karen..go Wash your freaking Face!”.. Gal ….

For me, I had to get nice and depressed and lose money to get out

I would hate that for my friends. But I also don’t want to crap all over a friends’ (or family’s) business if they are making a little extra cash they need . So I’m extremely hesitant to write or share articles about it.

Writing this was tough.. but I won’t share it..except for my twitter account, which has , 14 followers. AND….Probably all hunbots 🤣

It’s tricky and makes me sad for the people who have been scammed. Something that is supposed to be so great for the stay at home parent ..ends up being a trap of deception and house of cards,.. for so many.

I don’t know what the answer is. I don’t know how to get to the bottom of it. I wish I did. It is something that seems to haunt me ..even 7 years clear from this ..’Stranger Things’ type of biz industry .

Hopefully, as more light is shed on what really happens..the more people will:

a) do the right thing at the top

b) make the biz model much more transparent

c) not prey on stay at home parents

d decrease the drastic mark up on their products.

Hopefully, something good will come from those who failed and those who succeeded and there will not be such a stigma attached to either saying “no or yes”, to a new shake or eye cream.